Is it fair to put someone through the ringer for past mis-deeds? When does the statute of limitations run out on "you done me wrong" recriminations? Is there a way to work out these feelings of hurt and fear without beating someone else up, metaphorically speaking? I don't know the answer to any of these questions. Well I know therapy is a possible solution, I'm just not going that route. I know I never mean the conversations to be mean. I actually often think I am just talking about what is affecting me. Maybe I will just share what I am thinking. It all starts without any malice. I just want to share my feelings. But I think I have finally discovered that my feelings are so dark and festering, that to share them with anyone but this blog or a therapist, who might be able to help, is really cruel. It is pretending to be factual, when in reality I am venomous.
So even tho I am still hurting, it really isn't fair to ask another person to feel as rotten as I do without some sort of solution or healing involved in the conversation. If one really can't say something constructive about a problem it's time to let it go or get professional help.
Wish it was like this ringer washing machine - EASY!
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